Hypothetical question for the females. Would you like getting a random email from an ex? first love?

even if it's been years since you've actually talked? i looked through a box full of pictures and letters over the weekend, and it brought back memories





i want to email her.. but i'm scared





plus she's with someone new now.. do you think i should hit her up? or will she think i'm a complete lunatic?

Hypothetical question for the females. Would you like getting a random email from an ex? first love?
Depends on the circumstances. Are you on good terms with her?





Personally, I would NOT want to hear from any of my ex BFs. But that is because we had bad breakups, and we are either not friends anymore or I ended up hating them for what they did. Hearing from them would just bring back bad memories.





You should also consider her new BF--would contacting your ex cause problems for them? Contacting an ex can actually be a selfish thing to do, especially if you want to tell her that you still have feelings for her. You might just complicate things for her. Maybe it's best that you just leave her alone.
Reply:i think that would depend on how the relationship ended, and what your intentions are. if your intending on just a friendly hello, go for it but if your wanting to see if there is a chance to rekindle something, i would leave her alone.
Reply:I personally wouldn't. There's no connection anymore; especially if I'm with someone; that could cause more harm than good. You guys are not together for a reason unfortunately. If I did get an email; I'd delete it; not to be mean or nasty, but I just would =) Hope this helps!
Reply:If you are scared because you still have feelings for her, than no do not email her. She has obvisiouly moved on. If you just want to touch bases than by all means, drop a quick hello.
Reply:Kind of depends... if it ended really badly with one of those "I never want to speak to you again" and throwing things, not so sure. But if you ended on good terms or even if you were really close she might actually enjoy hearing from you and maybe you can somehow be friends again or at least on speaking terms. Know I did when my ex emailed me randomly.
Reply:If you want to email her go for it. But recognize that you might be starting something you can't deal with. I don't know why you broke up but it might bring back old feelings.
Reply:I think you should send the email. Since you know she has a boyfriend keep it completely friendly. Something her boyfriend wouldn't gasp over if he was to read it. If you ended on bad terms then I would be very cautious.....
Reply:i wouldn't. mayyyyybe if it was like 20 years later, but probably not even then. it's called the past for a reason- it has passed.
Reply:go for it! it may be worth it in the end
Reply:If you are in a relationship then don't bother. You are looking for trouble. You need to ask yourself what are your intentions? Where do you expect this to go? Ex's are exes for a reason. If you having nothing but good intentions, then tell you significant other that you want to contact your ex and you want her to meet her. And if it's okay with her then have at it. You may all get along great and become friends. But saying that you're "scared" implies that you have underlying intentions, possibly hoping to see if there are still sparks from the past.
Reply:If you ended on ok terms... I think you should email her and say just about all you've said in this question. Explain that you just wanted to say hi and maybe catch up a little. No expectations, just a friendly hello and maybe a quick trip down memory lane.
Reply:I would love to know where my first love is....he and I lost contact after I married.





Before you do contact her make sure you are ready for the outcome....good or bad you must be able to handle it.





Think before you act, in some cases it's better to leave things the way they are. Then again if you are still in love and want to find out if she has feelings ... and you can handle the outcome..go for it.....be ready though things may not turn out the way you remember.....





I saw one of my X's after several years and in the back of my mind I had such warm feelings for him and when we met it was like kissing my brother....and then the memories were dashed....So if you are going to see her be ready
Reply:I would leave well enough alone. She has a new love in her life and that might make them mad at her if they find out. I would just not email her
Reply:approach her with caution.





if you open it with friendliness, i think she will respond with friendliness.
Reply:man, hit her up! she's probably wondering what happened to you or has wondered where you're @ or what you're doing these days!! i say def send that email. i've never minded getting a random email from someone i used 2 be w/.....but make it very friendly.

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